Showing Off Kids on Social Media

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  1. Mika

    Mika Active Member

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    I share special moments of my child on Facebook like when she does something in her school, goes for swimming or gym for her practice on weekends. I also share when we are out on special tours and she wears local dresses. My account is set for my family and freinds' eyes only so I don't think there is anything wrong or it's invasion in her privacy.
     
  2. pwarbi

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    I'm guessing that you don't like social media about as much as you dislike children then, haha? I do take your point that people do post too much on there, and mainly about things that nobody else is even interested in. I have got a Facebook and Twitter account but I very rarely use either to be honest.

    As for posting about their children, it is a sad reflection on society these days that people have to be wary about what they post, and in an ideal world if a parent is proud and wants to show off their child's achievement, then the perfect place to do it SHOULD be social media, but unfortunately it isn't due to the amount of trolls and perverts that are out there. I've even seen people call other people's children ugly and there's just no need for that sort of abuse.
     
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  3. thisnthat

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    This is definitely one of my concerns as well. Even though I only add real friends, people I actually know, there just really isn't any true privacy online any more. Look at your ads, lol. They follow, collect, target, everything we do. I just don't like the intrusiveness of it all, especially in regards to kids.

    This is too much. Once something is posted online, it will never really be gone, even if removed. The fact that people do this to their kids is beyond me. Kids deserve some privacy too.
     
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  4. Jason76

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    I feel sad for the kids who have to hear some those hateful comments. Nonetheless, I think the ugly comments are more out of spite for parents who show-off too much rather than a real swipe at the children. These parents have a serious mental problem and it's starting rub off wrong with other people. Anyhow, I bet the ugly comments are from friends of friends. Friends who abuse others are simply unfriended.

    Anyhow, Facebook is a gossip machine and it cause you to get hated pretty fast, especially if you're posting political stuff. However, other people are hated because they are showing too much emotion, so they get labeled wimps etc. Being a poet can massively backfire. It's sort of like being in a humanities class in college where the professor asks for your sensitive opinion and then the peers make fun of it.:rolleyes:

    Anyhow, a lot of people post cause their immediate friends won't criticize them and they're sheltered from the friends of friends who make give them heat for their mouth.

    Has some of this stuff happened to me? Why, of course.
     
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  5. tyche

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    @thisnthat, My cousin is a "joker", so it's not surprising that he would post pics like that. And take note, he made it his profile pic. I wonder how his kid will react if he sees that "sensitive" pic of him when he gets older. Poor kids. They don't have any control with regards to what is being posted when it comes to them by the parents.
     
  6. thisnthat

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    Exactly. I try to think of it like that too. What would they think if they saw this years from now? I don't want to embarrass my kids.

    I'm sure people have good intentions when they do this stuff. They want to share stuff that's cute or funny. I just can't help but cringe when I see it. You can never "un-ring the bell" when it comes to stuff you put online, so we have to be careful what we post.

    I remember a potty picture that was taken of me when I was little. I was mortified that it was shown to family. I can imagine I'd be a bit upset if it was on the Internet.
     
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  7. AngelaMc

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    I think there are many dangers in posting your child's stuff on Facebook, especially if the settings are not set to private settings. I know social media is the big thing these days, that's all we seem to hear about. I'm a little more old fashioned and believe in privacy.:)
     
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  8. tyche

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    @thisnthat, Well, to be safe, you should get that photo in your possession, if it's not in your care already. You'll never know, one of your relatives might post it online without permission. Then your friends will get to see it. Uh-oh.
     
  9. Jason76

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    Actually, stuff on Facebook can be deleted, but the process might be time consuming. Does anyone know of any programs that would speed up the process? Note, definitely it would take many days or maybe longer than that to erase the whole past history of people who make a lot of daily posts. Also, searching Facebook for specific posts would be time consuming.
     
  10. thisnthat

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    That wasn't really my point. Once something is on the Internet, it's there forever. You might delete if from FB or another site, but it's never really gone. At least that's what I've read. Try the Way Back Machine or something, sometime. It's like when you delete stuff on an Apple phone, but it's really still there and recoverable.

    Besides, even if you delete it, the damage may already have been done. Some creeper could have saved pics of your kids already. I shudder at the thought.
     
  11. Ladykayann

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    I am not against parents showing off their kids on social media as I am often tempted to do the same but I believe one must be careful of the type of information they share, so as to keep the children safe.

    My husband hates social media, so we agreed that if I wanted to share pictures I would share older ones. That way, it wouldn't reflect the present features of my kids.
     
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  12. thisnthat

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    Oh, I wouldn't put it past some of them, but my mother has that pic in an album tucked away somewhere. My friends do seem to delight in posting pics that I don't want shown to the world though. I mean, my big hair and crazy, bright clothes are a thing of the past. No need to bring them back to life on Facebook, ha ha.

    I don't think anyone should post a picture of anyone else without their permission. In any other setting, you can get sued for doing that without a signed release. Why is Facebook allowed to get away with it? I think that goes double for kids.
     
  13. tony

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    Although I like seeing photos of babies on the social media I strongly think it shouldn't be made rampant. Just as I like having my privacy I like extending that to the young child too.
     

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